Question:Dear Christine, My boyfriend and I were together for 11 months. I truly believed we had potential.
Within the first 4 months, we had already broken up once as he said he did not think we were ‘soulmates’. Then we got back together. A month and a half ago, we broke up again (I broke up with him but it really doesn’t matter who broke up with who). He said he had wanted to break up all along. I really miss him a lot. Should I make one last try and tell him that I do miss him or is it really a lost cause?
SB
Answer: Dear SB,
In a healthy relationship, you never have to convince the other person you are right for them. It is completely natural to miss him but what you miss is the ‘idea’ of him and the ‘potential’ of the relationship, not the reality. He has expressed that he wanted to break up all along. That comment alone should be the red flag for you to move on. Find closure within yourself, rather than looking for closure from him.
To your authenticity,
Love, Christine