Question:Hi Christine. I love the advice you give. I have a question for you. You indicated how to read men's body language, but how do you read women's body language? How do I know if she's interested? What are some obvious Clues she likes you? Also who should make the first move?
Signed, Clues for Moves
Answer: Dear CFM,
Thank you very much for your compliment. I will be writing a full article on this topic shortly but in the meantime, here are some key clues to look for to find out if she is interested in you:
She holds your glance for longer than 4 seconds She touches your arm or knee She is stroking her neck, licking her lips or twirling her hair -not all at once though! Look for the subtleties
If you are still not sure, you can perform some simple 'tests' :
Touching Tests: You can test her attraction by gauging her responses to casual touching. Casual touching is simple and fast. Examples are when your fingers touch her when you give her a cup of coffee, or when you touch her back to guide her to the table you've selected. Casual touching is ambiguous; first, touch her casually, and see how she responds. You may not be able to gauge the response the first time, so do it again. Look for things like her eyes getting shiny and reflective, she gets more relaxed and animated, or if her skin starts to flush.
Hug Test: When saying hello or good-bye to her, give her a short hug and gauge her response. Does she press into you? Does she seem to want to really hang on?
Enthusiasm Test: You can gauge a woman's level of interest by her level of enthusiasm. Her enthusiasm is most apparent between the activities that you do together, rather than during them. Between activities, she has the best opportunity to say she's tired and needs to go home. For example, after the movie, is she eager to go out for a coffee or a drink, or does she seem reluctant?
As far as making the first move, I'm a little traditional. This is the way I see it, it is the woman's job to send the right signals if she is interested and it is the man's job to go for the first kiss. Yes, women love to drop the handkerchief and men love the thrill of pursuit. We have been this way since the beginning of time so why change things?
To your authenticity,
Love, Christine